Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Marriage Maintenance - A Foundation of Trust
I trust Lee with all of my heart. I really do. And I know that he trusts me too.
I know that we don't have a perfect marriage...and we've both done things that have disappointed the other.
But we still trust each other.
I trust that he has my best interest in mind.
I trust that he's going to take care of our family.
I trust that he's not going to cheat on me.
Trust is a precious, valuable, personal possession.
Once my trust is broken, (this is for me on a personal level), it takes a lot for someone to gain that trust back.
I have to choose to trust again.
And I have. I have given second chances...mostly because I've been given second chances.
In some marriages, there are some hurts that run deep, and trust is badly broken.
But I believe that God desires for us to restore that trust. It doesn't happen overnight, but with His help, trust can be rebuilt.
Lee and I have a marriage that is built on a foundation of trust. There are times when I don't want to be completely honest with him...or I don't want to ask the hard questions...or I don't want him to ask me the hard questions...
But we are honest with each other. We are able to tell each other how we feel...even though we know that the other may not want to hear what has to be said because it may hurt our feelings. But it doesn't do any good to hold those feelings in...
And it certainly isn't good for one of us to tell someone else (especially someone of the opposite sex) how we are feeling and not each other.
I don't ever want to tell someone something that I wouldn't tell Lee. And I trust that he feels the same way about me. If I can't tell him, then no one should know about it...I can journal it or take it to my grave.
There are attacks on our marriage. I am aware of this. But because our foundation is built on Christ and trust in each other...that's a Rock that cannot be shaken.
If there is a foundation problem in a house, the house can crumble...it's not safe...it's a danger zone.
I want our marriage to be a safe place for each other and our family...it's the greatest gift we can give to each other and our kids...